How to endure a sex marathon

Not very often does one get the opportunity to spend extended lovemaking time with their lover, but when such rare occasion does arise one should make it a point to keep it enjoyable as well as enduring.
Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it, and many times it could go all night.
Thus, to keep oneself in good form, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate, reports Fox News.
Before embarking on your sex marathon, it is better to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated.

And here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon:

Don''t orgasm
You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation - because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. Change positions if you feel like you''re losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn''t the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.

Pleasure her to keep the focus off of you
If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest does not have to be totally sexual in nature, and it is just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways - or invent new ways of loving.

Don''t drink too much
Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man''s ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time. Alcohol also has sedative effects - it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behaviour. Drinking too much alcohol will not help enduring a sex marathon.

Get creative
While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure- ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Get creative - you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects.

Keep lube handy
One of the main problems of sex play for hours could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth.

Condom-free sex good for mind:

LONDON: Having sex without using condom is good for mental health, says a new study.
Stuart Brody, of the West of Scotland University, Paisley, and his colleagues found that unprotected heterosexual sex can significantly boost men and women’s mental wellbeing. On the other hand, heterosexual sex with a condom is linked to poorer mental health, the study showed.
According to Brody, mankind is biologically wired to enjoy unprotected sex as it gives couples an evolutionary advantage and raises the chances of reproducing.
“Evolution is not politically correct, so of the broad range of potential sexual behaviour, there is actually only one consistently linked with better physical and mental health and that is the one behaviour that would be favoured by evolution,” he said.
The researchers studied the sexual behaviour of 99 women and 111 men in Portugal.
Brody concluded that condom use was linked to members of the sample who exhibited problems dealing with stress. He found that those who had unprotected sex were able to deal with stress in a more mature way. They also had better mental health. However, sexual health campaigners have attacked the findings, warning that unsafe sex leads to unwanted pregnancies and diseases.

OTC EC and abortion pills cause menstrual problems

Was she pregnant or not? Sunita Divegi, 23, went to Dr Poonam Neeraj in Baroda for an answer. The corporate intern had got stone-drunk at aparty some weeks earlier and didn’t remember if she and her partner had sex that night. “I was so drunk I never realized what happened,” is what she told the doc. Familiar with taking emergency contraceptive (EC) pills, she didn’t worry much once her periods started. But later, Sunita had a nagging doubt that something wasn’t right when there was excessive bleeding.
Gynecologists are handling a sharp spike in such cases of menstrual complications among young adult women who are arbitrarily and repeatedly using OTC EC pills and abortion pills (for foetuses upto 45 days old). “They check dosage on the internet, do their own calculations. Not understanding the consequences, they land up with incomplete abortions. They are scared about the uncontrollable bleeding, or not getting their periods,” says Dr Poonam Neeraj, adding that more than 50% of her clients are in the 18 to early 20s age-group, all with pill-related complications.
Widely advertized ECs like I-Pill and Unwanted 72 are popular. They are, however, being used not in emergency but as casual contraception. “When you’re with your boyfriend, you don’t want to use condoms,” says Jyoti, a 21-year-old job-hunting graduate. Complications? “At times. But you prefer sex without a condom,” she reiterates. In such cases, it’s ECs to the rescue. Frequent use? “Some put on weight, others don’t feel right. But the body gets used to it,” she says.

Sexual Dysfunction

For couples of any age, sexual dysfunction–the inability of both partners to fully enjoy sexual intercourse–can be an obstacle not only to having children but also to maintaining a positive and loving relationship. Problems of this kind are common, affecting more than half of all couples at some time, according to some studies. While sexual dysfunction rarely threatens physical health, it can take a heavy psychological toll, bringing on depression, anxiety, and debilitating feelings of inadequacy. Problems may be difficult to resolve without expert help, especially because misinformation is one of the leading causes of sexual dysfunction. One example of misinformation is that impotence is an unavoidable consequence of aging. In reality, healthy men can enjoy sexual intimacy well into their senior years. Achieving an erection may take 5 to 15 minutes of genital stimulation, however.

Another erroneous belief is that women have no interest in sex after a hysterectomy. Although there may be a decrease in vaginal lubrication if the ovaries are removed along with the uterus, libido (the sex drive) remains intact–and, because any worries about pregnancy are gone, it may even increase.

As people live longer and attitudes change, more older couples desire to prolong the years of healthy sexuality. Sex in old age was at one time thought to be inappropriate and even immoral, now, both physical and emotional intimacy are seen as important to well–being throughout life. Although sexual desire and the frequency of intercourse decline with age, sexual enjoyment and satisfaction do not. For couples in good health, sexual activity, which includes touching and caressing, may continue into the eighties and even nineties. Sexual dysfunction takes different forms in men and women.

Sexual Headaches
For years, partners have used headache as an excuse to avoid lovemaking. But for some people, lovemaking causes the headache! Forty–year old Shankar was making love to his wife when the pain exploded in his head. “I felt as if someone had plunged an ice pick into the back of my skull”, he reported to his doctor later. The pain lingered for about an hour, with no other symptoms, so Shankar dismissed the episode as a fluke.

Headache

When the pain returned a few days later, once again as Shankar was approaching orgasm, he could no longer ignore it. Was he about to die from a brain hemorrhage or aneurysm? Was his sex life in danger of dying, too? The pain he’d experienced, though short–lived, was enough to make Shankar fearful of making love again.

Though reluctant to discuss his sex life with his doctor, Shankar made an appointment and described his symptoms. To his relief, the doctor was able to rule out a hemorrhage or other life–threatening conditions. He diagnosed Shankar’s pain as benign sexual headache, a lesser–known type of headache triggered by orgasm.
Benign Sexual Headaches – What are they ?
People suffering from benign sexual headache–also known as benign coital headache or orgasmic headache – describe sudden, intense pain near or at the moment of orgasm. The pain remains intense for five to fifteen minutes, though some people report pain lasting as long as two days. Pain can occur with intercourse or masturbation, and may happen infrequently, or every time a person approaches orgasm. Men and women of all ages have reported suffering from these peculiar headaches, but people over the age of 40 are more prone to it. When the first headache strikes, the sufferer stops copulating or masturbating and rests quietly in agony. Most are worried that they might have something seriously wrong in their heads, and many seek medical advice soon afterwards.
Doctors have identified three types of benign sexual headaches:
Dull
Headache The dull type of headache starts as a dull ache that intensifies with increased sexual excitement and gradually subsides once sexual activity ceases. People with this type of headache may not even make the connection between their pain and sex, and are less likely to seek medical help.
Explosive
The explosive type of benign sexual headache is characterized by sudden, intense pain just before or at the moment of orgasm. This is the type most often seen by doctors.
Postural
This rarer type is called postural headache. Like explosive sexual headaches, postural headaches begin with intense pain at orgasm. The pain then subsides, but reoccurs when the patient stands up.

What is the cause ?
Doctors haven’t determined the exact cause of benign sexual headaches, though they are classified with other headaches brought on by exertion. Because migraine sufferers are more prone to sexual headaches, some doctors believe sexual headaches may be related to vascular changes brought on by physical activity, such as exercise and sex. Other researchers believe stress and fatigue may contribute to or trigger the onset of benign sexual headache. While you are experiencing benign sexual headache, there is little you can do to ease the pain.

However abstaining from sex for some time may help .Once your doctor has diagnosed benign sexual headache, he may prescribe a period of inactivity. Abstaining from sex for a period of two or three weeks often eliminates a patient’s predisposition toward recurrence of benign sexual headaches. Some people find that taking anti–inflammatory drug such as ibuprofen, prior to sexual activity can prevent benign sexual headaches. If abstention or ibuprofen doesn’t work, your physician may prescribe a short course of propranolol (Inderal).

Though painful and sometimes frightening, benign sexual headache doesn’t mean an end to a satisfying sex life. Understanding and proper treatment usually lead to a permanent cure.

Too much sex: is there such a thing?
Is there something as having too much sex? This question is often posed to most counselors and sex therapists, and their answer always is that as long as you are comfortable physically and your partner is comfortable you can have as much sex as you want. However there are some physical limitations to this fact also. Men can’t be aroused for a while after they ejaculate, and some women get a stomachache after a lot of sex.

Too much sex’ happens when there’s a discrepancy in sexual desire; if one partner is simply wanting more than the other. Another type of ’too much sex’ is the kind of sex they may be having. Putting aside clinical problems of sexual addiction or sexual compulsiveness, the optimal frequency of sex is defined by each couple, not by sex therapists or the media. Problems can arise if there is poor communication. For example, if a man wakes up ready for sex but his partner isn’t a “Morning person”, sex can become a source of tension and a turn–off at any time of day. Or one partner may be unsatisfied with sex because she needs more caressing and foreplay. In these cases, people must communicate their needs, or sexual encounters can become dreadful.

There is no such defined statement of the phrase “Too much sex”. What’s good for society is good for couples too. Although the whole focus should be on compatibility, that is what is not talked about at all. The media just harps on about inconsequential subjects and conveniently leaves out matters which need addressing. Thus the bottom line being that if your sexual relationship is healthy (for you), if you’re emotionally tuned into each other and if your hearts are as much in it as your bodies, then there is nothing as too much or too little sex for you. You are in perfect balance.

Virginity

A girl who has never had a sexual intercourse is said to be a virgin, and thus her hymen is intact. The hymen is a fleshy, thin membrane, which partially closes the mouth of the vagina. The opening may be of several forms, such as circular, crescentic, etc. There is a small opening in the hymen to let the menstrual flow from the uterus. The hymen is stretched and ruptured by the erect penis during sexual intercourse. This may lead to some discomfort and bleeding.

The Hymen could be ruptured due to various other reasons too:

• Due to activities like bicycling, horse riding, high jump, and hurdles.
• Also due to dancing.
• Masturbation, especially when indulged with a large foreign body like a vibrator.
• An accident or injury, such as falling on a projecting object.
• Due to introduction of instruments by doctors during examination or surgical operation.
• While doing various faulty technique like douching (cleaning) the vagina.

Thus the Hymen could be ruptured not only due to sexual intercourse but also due to various other

Masturbation

Masturbation means self stimulation of sex organs to get sexual pleasure. Both the sexes indulge in this activity. Masturbation has lots of misconception and myths related to it. It is quite a normal act and should not give an inferiority complex or a guilty feeling. It is only a part of the normal process by which they discover and learn about their own bodies. It is just sort of imitation of real intercourse. As love–making is a shared experience, masturbation is something that is self–centered.

Few Myths about Masturbation.
The following are some wrong opinions people have about masturbation:

• Only the young, immature and the unmarried practice masturbation.
• People who masturbate are sexually abnormal.
• Regular masturbation will lead to shrinkage of the penis.
• Only men practice it.
• It leads to weakness, insanity and impotence.
• People who masturbate are homosexual.
• Frequent masturbation can lead to sexual inadequacy.

Why Is Masturbation Good for You

• It releases sexual tension and often produces a pleasant, relaxed feeling.
• It helps a person become more relaxed and comfortable with his or her own sexuality.
• If shared with a partner it could be a more enjoyable experience.
• Masturbation does not get anyone pregnant.
• Sexually Transmitted Diseases are not transmitted during masturbation.
• It can help to know and learn about ones own sexual responses and thus help and be prepared for sexual activity with partner in future.
• It helps in playing out of pleasurable sexual fantasies.

Is Masturbating Safe:
Inspite of all the myths and rumors about masturbating, one should understand that it is completely safe to masturbate and does not give you any disease or cause any problems to your sexual life. In fact it helps you in a great way when you are ready for sexual intercourse with your partner.

How much masturbation is NORMAL
There cannot be a “Normal” rate for masturbation. A person can masturbate regularly and repeatedly. Many people masturbate several times a day, or just once a day. There are also people who never masturbate. The only thing that can happen is that the penis might get little sore, but again it is normal. It is very difficult for a young person to resist masturbation and it takes a very strong will power to do so.

Does masturbation indicate poor sexual relationship between a married couple?
It is normally believed that a happily married person does not need to masturbate, if he or she has a healthy sexual relationship. But inspite of having a good relationship many people masturbate to get a different sexual experience. Some couples also masturbate mutually. It is only a matter of concern when he or she is unhappy with the love making and only then you need to consult a therapist or a counselor.

Sex & Sexuality

The word “SEX” somehow always tends to raise more than a few eyebrows. It is a topic which is not openly spoken of. In our section on Sex and Sexuality we provide you with information which can equip you with the knowledge of a having a healthy mind and body within the realms of sex. Studies have shown that both men and women were asked about what came into their minds when asked about the word SEX.
Man – “Fun, playful, ecstasy, hot, spontaneous and exquisite”.
Woman –“Serious business”.
These two very varied answers are exaggerations and cannot be literal. Yet they do bring out the state of mind of both the sexes. It shows the extremes at which their interpretations of sex are. The woman thinks of sex as being serious business, showing her lack of pleasure and enjoyment. The man however thinks of it as hot and ecstatic thus depicting his lack of responsibility and respect toward the intimacy of the experience. However, these preconceived notions of sex are what our brain believes them to be. We get our ideas from various mediums like, TV, movies, music, jokes, from friends and family, and then we combine and assimilate all of what we believe to be true and thus form our own myths. One needs to however, sort out the truth and the hearsay.
Sex & sexuality Sex therapy, is a medium and a study which is used to help people accept and increase enjoyment of their sexuality. It is based on the ideas that sex is normal and good, that relationships can be meaningful, and sexual intimacy is a normal goal. It also gives you the powerful tool of knowledge, equipped with which one can lead a full and satisfied life. Sexology is a forum for the discussion and analysism of ethical, cultural, psychological, social, and political issues related to sexual relationships and sexual behavior. An individual’s sexual orientation–whether homosexual or heterosexual–is an essential part of sexual health and personality which strongly supports the right of each individual to accept, acknowledge, and live in accordance with his or her orientation.
Sexual orientation is one’s erotic, romantic, and affectional attraction to the same gender, to the opposite gender, or both. A person whether man or woman has the right to choose always. Sometimes your partner might push you to become sexually active. Knowing your values and deciding what it is that you want will help you in this situation. It should also be understood that if someone carries a condom, it does not mean that they are “Easy” or expect “Action”. It simply means that the person is being prepared for protection if he/she decide to indulge in sexual intercourse. In fact it is mostly advised by all that one should always carry protection at all times and must never engage in sex unless with a condom.
Sex is an expression of feelings, thoughts and emotions. The mature understanding of this is what makes an adult. One doesn’t need to shudder or embarrass one’s self when the topic is brought up. Our sexuality is a part of us and should never be suppressed or ignored. The choices an individual makes is a reflection of himself – let your foremost be “Awareness”.